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Founder Resilience Worksheets

Every instrument from the book — the stress signature, the RESILIENT dashboard, the reappraisal protocol, decision journal, support map, and the one-page protocol. Living templates to copy into your notes app or print. Free, in English and Dutch.

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The Psychology of Founder Resilience: Companion Workbook

Living templates from The Psychology of Founder Resilience. Copy each section into your notes app or print it. Update weekly; do not treat these as one-time exercises.


Chapter 0: Stress Signature (four lines) — Artifact 1

When: Every evening for one week, then monthly check-in.

Field Prompt
Pressure What was the main load today?
First signal Earliest body or mood signal (jaw, chest, irritability, rumination)?
Cost What did it cost work or relationships?
What helped One thing that genuinely reduced load (even slightly)?

Founder tip: If the same trigger appears three nights in a row, route to the chapter that owns it (reappraisal → Ch 3, attention → Ch 5, recovery → Ch 7).


Chapter 1: Identity Fusion Audit

Objective: Map self-complexity; reduce fusion with the company.

  1. List every role you occupy (Founder, Partner, Parent, Friend, Athlete, etc.).
  2. Estimate % of waking identity each role gets this month (honest, not aspirational).
  3. If Founder > 70%, pick one dormant role to reactivate this week with a calendar block.
  4. Write one sentence: If the company failed tomorrow, who would I still be?

Chapter 2: RESILIENT Dashboard (nine capacities) — Artifact 2

Daily (2 min): Rate each capacity full / low / empty.

Letter Capacity Group
R Reappraisal Interior
E Emotional granularity Interior
S Somatic regulation Interior
E Executive function protection Interior
I Identity flexibility Exterior
L Learning orientation Exterior
I Interpersonal support Exterior
N Narrative integration Integrative
T Titrated exposure Integrative

Weekly: Mark the two lowest capacities. That pair is your intervention priority for the coming week.

Founder tip: Never make Type 2 or 3 decisions (Ch 6) on a day when Somatic regulation and Executive function are both empty.


Chapter 3: Reappraisal Protocol (six steps)

When: After a hard meeting, bad news, or rumination loop.

  1. Event — Facts only, no story.
  2. Appraisal — The story your mind told (raw).
  3. Distortions — Catastrophizing, mind-reading, filtering, personalizing.
  4. Alternatives — At least two defensible other readings.
  5. Resources — Cash, team, allies, experience, next step.
  6. One action — Single concrete move in 24 hours.

In-room checks (before high-stakes meetings): Scope (what is actually at stake?) · Time (is this permanent or this quarter?) · Resource (what do I still have?).


Chapter 4: Granularity Check-In

When: You feel generically “stressed,” “fine,” or “off.”

  1. Arousal: High or low?
  2. Valence: Positive or negative?
  3. Precise label — One word from your personal vocabulary (dread, exposure, friction, determination, etc.).
  4. Action implied — What does this label need (sleep, conversation, data, boundary)?

Board / investor prep: Replace “nervous” with: unprepared · exposed · competitive · resigned. Each implies a different last-five-minutes protocol.


Chapter 5: Attention Audit

Objective: Find highest-cost leaks; design one boundary.

One-day log: For each interruption, note source (Slack, email, AI alert, person, rumination) and whether it was truly urgent.

Three layers: 1. External (notifications, dashboards, open tabs) 2. Social (meetings, “quick questions”) 3. Internal (rumination dressed as problem-solving)

Output: One protected block (90–120 min, same time daily) + one input boundary (e.g., no Slack before noon, AI drafts batched at 4 p.m.).


Chapter 6: Decision Architecture

Five-line decision journal (write before you act) — Artifact 3

Line Content
Decision What you choose; what it forecloses
What I believe Key assumptions
What I expect Checkable outcome + confidence %
Why Reasoning, including gut/bias
Review date When you compare prediction to result

Type classification

Type Rule
Type 1 Reversible, low cost → decide fast
Type 2 Reversible but costly → sleep on it; check emotional label
Type 3 Irreversible → pre-mortem + journal + dissent

Pre-mortem (Type 3 only)

It is 12 months from now and this failed. List three plausible causes. For each, one mitigation you can apply today.


Chapter 7: Recovery Architecture (minimum viable)

Component Your spec
Sleep anchor Fixed wake time: ______
Wind-down Start time + worry list ritual: ______
Movement MVD Minimum viable dose (e.g., 20-min walk): ______
Cognitive rest One non-problem-solving activity: ______
Shutdown ritual Last work action + first recovery action: ______

Signal rule: When attention collapses (Ch 5 audit), recovery is overdue—not a reward for later.

Travel variant: Three non-negotiables only: sleep floor, one movement minimum, one evening input boundary.


Chapter 8: Support Architecture Map — Artifact 4

For each significant relationship, mark which functions they actually provide (not wishful):

Person Emotional Instrumental Informational Appraisal

Rules: - Do not ask investors for emotional holding. - Match disclosure to function (panic → emotional; strategy → informational). - Quarterly raw truth ≠ daily raw truth (cadence matters).

Gap action: If no peer group, schedule one exploratory conversation this month with a founder at a similar stage.


Chapter 9: Titrated Exposure Calendar

Quarterly inoculation plan:

Domain avoided Smallest exposure Recovery paired Log (1 sentence)

Five conditions checklist (all must be present for training stress): - [ ] Predictable context - [ ] Some controllability - [ ] Matched recovery (Ch 7) - [ ] Narrative integration (reappraisal + decision journal) - [ ] Social holding (Ch 8)

Founder tip: Endurance is not training. If dread does not decrease over three exposures with recovery, reduce dose or add witness—do not “push through.”


Chapter 10: Weekly Founder Review (30 min)

Anchor: Same day/time weekly; phone in another room.

  1. Capacity scan — Two most depleted RESILIENT letters.
  2. Input log — Sleep avg, movement days, attention blocks, peer contact, boundaries held.
  3. Decision audit — One good decision, one bad; state preceding sleep/mood.
  4. Pattern note — What preceded best vs worst days?
  5. One change — Single test for next week (not an overhaul).

Share headline with one appraisal-support person: *“Hard week; held sleep; struggling with ___.”*

Implementation intention bank — Artifact 6

If (trigger) Then (action) Last fail date

Season variants (one page)

Variant When Minimum set
Baseline Normal ops Full protocol
Compressed Launch, fundraise, crisis Sleep floor + one reappraisal + one peer call + one protected block
Recovery After acute push Sleep, movement, reduced decisions, integration conversation

Crisis card (keep visible) — Artifact 5

  1. Sleep floor — Protect tonight; no irreversible decisions today.
  2. Call appraiser — One person from Support Map for reality-testing.
  3. Compress protocol — Run Compressed variant only.
  4. Log one line — Event + one action + review date.

One-Page Protocol Template

Version: ___ Date: ___ Season: [ ] Baseline [ ] Compressed [ ] Recovery
RESILIENT weekly marks: R _ E _ S _ I _ L _ I _ E _ N _ T _
If-then #1: If ___, then ___
If-then #2: If ___, then ___
If-then #3: If ___, then ___
Micro-practices (anchor → behavior):
1. ___
2. ___
3. ___
Protected: Weekly review ___ | Monthly revision ___
Track: Sleep ___ | Movement ___ | Attention blocks ___
Support: ___ knows this protocol exists | Peer cadence: ___
Compressed (5 lines): ___
Recovery (5 lines): ___

Resilience is not what you are. It is what you run.

From The Psychology of Founder Resilience · see the book · These worksheets are training instruments, not a replacement for clinical care when symptoms are severe.